Beyond Done With the Crying-

More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children- Sheri McGregor, MA

About a decade ago, I became the unwilling member of a group of parents who society has forced into silence and continues to judge and blame. Truth be told, I would have made many of the judgments that were projected on to me. I am the parent of an estranged adult child. Ignorance and silence perpetuate untruths concerning estrangement. Along with this, there has developed an entire philosophy of cancel culture and a business sector within psychology that supports blaming parents. Don’t get me wrong—I realize divorce, drug abuse, alcoholism, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse all can lead to estrangement. But these are NOT fueling the phenomena we’re dealing with. Sheri McGregor’s book is about how “good parents who work diligently and do their best sometimes end up without the sweet fruits of their labor.” Her statistics indicate that as many as one in four families will experience an estrangement at some point. Gone are the days of reasonable parenting producing anything like reasonable outcomes, IMHO. Early in my own search for understanding, I looked for books and found ridiculous nonsense that blamed, shamed, and put the onus on parents for reconciliation. What a breath of fresh air to find McGregor’s book which empowers parents!

In 2016, McGregor released her first book, Done With the Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children. I skipped that one preferring to go on to the second because the focus of Beyond Crying is about moving the family that’s left behind forward. After years of processing my own feelings and coming to the same place as the author about her own situation, I was more concerned about how siblings handle estrangement and how to prepare for end-of-life choices. In addition, Beyond Crying, offered expanded material on mental health, boundaries, and truths about reconciliation.

The overall emphasis of this book is to help parents recover a strong and healthy sense of self to move forward with purpose. The adult child may never reappear or reappear only to break again. Even reconciliation that is functional will never be what it once was. You can’t go home. Hard truth. McGregor shares many stories from interviewing over 50,000 parents who have walked this path. They are enlightening.    

And I know that if you read this far, you’re wondering—why. Why did my estrangement happen? Like many of the parents in the book, I don’t know why. I never will.   

Sheri McGregor’s Website for parents: https://www.rejectedparents.net/     

Added: 7/22 To get a feel for how adult children are counseled in current psychology to drop parents from their lives simply google “no contact with parents.” Be prepared for some terrible stuff.

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BLOG INDEX

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BLOG INDEX SAMPLING

For the last few weeks, I’ve been working on a directory of posts from the blog. Although not all encompassing, hopefully it’ll help anyone looking to read about specific topics. Below is a sampling of categories and articles. Eventually, I’ll make an index page. Also note that WordPress didn’t seem to retain anything prior to 2014, although I started this blog in 2012. If anyone knows why, please share below.

Canyon of the Ancients, Colorado

DIRECTORY OF BLOG POSTS

ASTROLOGY:

Chiron & the Healing Journey- M. Reinhart

https://bit.ly/3uKswdy

Reincarnation Astrology

https://bit.ly/3u01Ztx

Alan Leo- Father of Modern Astrology

https://bit.ly/3K48EIJ

Yesterday’s Sky- S. Forrest

Evolutionary Astrology/reincarnation

https://bit.ly/3j0t6y5

An Astrological Look at the Pandemic

https://bit.ly/35xeO4W

Gazing Skyward: History of Astrology

The Fated Sky- B. Bobrick

https://bit.ly/35Reezj

Interview with Mama Maga: Astrologer

https://bit.ly/3yGB5Js

Astrology & the Rising of Kundalini– BH Clow

https://bit.ly/3IkRDKo

——————————————————————————————————————–SPIRITUAL

Poem: A Morning Offering– O’Donohue

https://bit.ly/3iWZz8D

Who are you?

https://bit.ly/35BteRM

Samhaim- What is it? (pagan holiday)

https://bit.ly/3wTQ0Q5

James Randi- (never a true skeptic)

https://bit.ly/3759Cpp

Painted Rocks (community project)

https://bit.ly/36OTHfc

Life in a Time of Covid

Ellis shares her Covid journal

https://bit.ly/3wZhGmy

Gratitude Reminders– gratitude practice

https://bit.ly/3xfYO31

The 1st Time Reindeer Flew

history, culture, shamanic, mushrooms

https://bit.ly/38sz4WN

Meditation Fundamentals Spiritual Schools Get Wrong

shared link from Khefer Haru

https://bit.ly/3Ij7gSe

A Resonate Thanksgiving

Covid Thanksgiving & past suffering

https://bit.ly/3Dw5ivD

Where to now, St. Peter?

“Lockdown”

Poem by Fr. Richard Hendrick, OFM

https://bit.ly/3DBXMQ0

Buddhism & Quantum Physics (video)

https://bit.ly/3ugJxgi

Christmas Blog- A Reflection

https://bit.ly/3KhiiYu

Spiritual Awakening: Kundalini

https://bit.ly/3JkvdHU

Extraordinary Conduits

channeled text material

https://bit.ly/3a7fWib

Of Chicks & Robots

consciousness, mind, intention

https://bit.ly/3KBWYNL

Winter Solstice at Stonehenge

https://bit.ly/3rb8fNc

What’s a Beguine?

https://bit.ly/3lZfPY3

Physics of the Soul- A. Goswami

living, dying, reincarnation

https://bit.ly/3AxOyVg

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GHOSTS & HAUNTINGS:

The Fashionable Ghost

ghost sightings, portrayal of ghosts in lit.

https://bit.ly/3LDmr9m

A Chill in Amsterdam

History, ghostly tales

https://bit.ly/35xJZx2

The Dark Rises

hauntings in NY State

https://bit.ly/3DH8JQg

The Ghost Story in Literature

https://bit.ly/3x04wG3

Ghost Town (St. Elmo)

visiting a CO. ghost town 

https://bit.ly/3LBaJMt

A Parisian Cemetery/Pere Lachaise

https://bit.ly/3DYPLof

Things That Go Bump in the Night

beware conjuring your own ghost

https://bit.ly/3uuJ3mu

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March for Our Lives (June 11, 2022)

NOW IS THE TIME!!

Saturday, June 11, 2022, all across America marches to support gun control will take place. Find an event near you here. Click on the link below! I’ll be at the Denver march.

If you think nothing ever happens, things never change, please know that NY State passed a bill to increase the legal age to own assault weapons to 21 this week. Florida did the same after the Parkland shooting in 2018. Things can change but not without us!!

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UPDATE: THE DENVER MARCH FOR OUR LIVES EVENT:

6/11/2022

There were some good speakers and many committed people at the event. Amazingly, this rally was organized by teenagers in high school who have all been directly impacted by gun violence. One speaker talked about the need to reach out to bridge the separation everyone feels in the country. Specifically, calling on gun control advocates to address the constant hammering of untruths by “big guns” (the gun industry) with reality. Please see how to answer gun advocates on http://www.coloradoceasefire.com.

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OMEN

Photo: Nick Fraser

I remember Sandy Hook. It was the morning of December 14th, 2012. I woke from a fitful, awful, disturbing dream unlike anything I’d ever experienced before. A gunman shooting cats, blood everywhere, sickening, and the phrase pounding “slaughter of innocents.” I noted the time on the alarm clock and tried to dismiss the dream as turned to daily chores. Later I’d learn that my dream occurred when the first 911 calls were coming in on the shooter at Sandy Hook.

One, two, skip a few… ninety-nine, one hundred. Sunday morning, May 22, 2022, we readied ourselves for our first major road trip marking an end to Covid and our new dedication to travel again. My husband and I had a trip planned to the Four Corners region of Colorado. I left the kitchen to see to some last-minute details when suddenly, my husband let out a god-awful gasp.

“What?” I called from the next room.  

“Don’t come in here!” His tone was firm. “The hawk has the baby bunny.”

My heart sank. The both of us had watched two, tiny bunnies in our yard for the past couple of weeks. Even showing them to the grandkids. (Damn redtails! I hate when they hunt in our yard. I do my best to feed the squirrels where they have cover but what can you do for bunnies?)

The morning felt off, being marked by death. Later in the car, my husband remarked on how he thought the bunny had been safe so near the lilac bush but that the hawk had come from behind and swooped down on him.

The drive toward Mesa Verde took us into part of Colorado that neither of us had ever seen. My husband spotted the first dead deer on the side of the road. More followed. I started to point out my own roadkill. Why so many? If I’d known there’d be so many, I would have paid attention and actually counted but surely it approached a dozen. I’ve been on lots of road trips, but I’d never seen so much death. I commented that death seems to be with us (my husband’s (fairly) accustomed to my sunny humor after all these years, but he didn’t respond). I felt unsettled at the sheer clobbering message of death we were getting but as is often the case, what can you do with insufficient knowledge?

Dreams, premonitions, omens. Being out of news media range at the National Park where we had no TV in the room, it wasn’t until the day after the Uvalde shooting that the details started to emerge for us. Honestly, I didn’t want to hear about the carnage. BUT— here we are again. THE SLAUGHTER OF INNOCENTS!!

When we returned home, I spent a few days doing my civic duty. Writing my Senators, making donations to groups for gun control, lobbying for an assault weapons ban, sharing posts about upcoming marches. I watched Facebook (with my liberal friends, mostly) post some obligatory responses and then within a week put their heads down and give up. In a community of people who (I think) regard themselves as “spiritual,” I watched my postings be ignored. Many “friends” took absolutely no stand, as if being spiritual elevates them so high they can’t deign to come to earth to take a stand for the weak, the young, the vulnerable. I’m ashamed of them.

I understand frustration! I’m frustrated, too. I don’t like that the Senate is highly unlikely to pass anything that will prevent another Uvalde! I do get that! But what’s the alternative as an individual? Do nothing? (Well, apparently!) I also wonder about individuals who remain silent because they don’t want to ruffle feathers because it might cause conflict on FB and other social media. Pretty weak, huh? But it’s there. It’s also there with those who have clients on different sides of the political spectrum and hey money (MY money, that’s more important than kids…I guess).

My bottom line for this rant is that if you are spiritual (in any way, shape, or form), you don’t get to sit it out. Nope! THAT IS YOUR FREAKIN’ CALL!! From that place of spirit, you are called to act. To protect the weak, the vulnerable, the young, the old.

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Zelensky: Past Lives Astrology

Photo: Government of Ukraine

The world has watched in astonishment as Volodymyr Zelensky has led Ukraine in its stand against the formidable Russian invasion. I’ve heard more than one person ask how this former comedian and actor has the internal resources to rise to this occasion. That intriguing question led me to take a quick peek at his birth chart to see what evolutionary astrology might have to say about him. As it turns out, quite a lot, actually.

Evolutionary astrology begins with the premise that we all have lived many lifetimes and we evolve spiritually through the many lessons we encounter along the way. To understand the themes associated with anyone’s past lives, we must look to the south node in the birth chart. Zelensky’s south node is in Aries (11th House). Let’s begin there because it reveals much about what his soul has been through.

Aries is associated with war. This is an adrenaline driven energy. Raw energy is available, and confrontations are likely. Suffice to say, Zelensky has known war, at least on some level. It is very possible that he experienced first-hand, the violence of the battlefield and that this has been a recurring pattern for him. However, it may not be the only context for the use of the mars’ energy. There can also be situations which involve challenges or do-or-die scenarios which involve an individual challenging themselves in hazardous situations. These are things that get that adrenaline pumping. Think mountain climbing, car racing, high stakes gamboling, and even political contests. Regardless of which of these happened, astrologer Steven Forrest has written of the Aries’ south node individual, “There are, inborn in this soul, the reflexes of a warrior.” So as the world keeps asking about that Ukrainian comedian, perhaps they are missing precisely who Volodymyr Zelensky really is on a soul level. That comedian mask hides the warrior and he’s done the warrior-thing for lifetimes…

The 11th House placement also gives us further insight into Zelensky’s past lives. This house is associated with fellowship and the groups we belong to because we share a common interest. Zelensky had past lives where his sense of individuality was overtaken by the interests of the group. There were collective social forces that did not allow him to fully express himself. Because of the connection to Venus in his chart, this was probably more about him going along with the prevailing belief system and playing by conventional societal rules. Nevertheless, Zelensky has a history of being caught up in broad historical currents which occurred in previous homelands. He identifies with the collective and has a pattern of sacrificing his inner self for the sake of the group.

I hope all this makes you smile a little more when next you hear something about that Ukrainian comedian!

Much more analysis could be done on his chart. This is just a brief glimpse into the power of evolutionary astrology. If you are intrigued about what your own chart might reveal, contact me below. Clients continue to report surprising correlations and how evolutionary astrology reports have helped them.  

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The Spiritual Weather Report:

The Jupiter/Neptune Conjunction: 4/12/2022
Perfecting today but ongoing throughout April.
Rare planetary alignment occurring about every 165 years (the next one in 2188).

Indications:
Heightened intuition
Perception of synchronicities
Increased creativity
Vivid dreams
Blissful states
Opportunities for connecting with Cosmic Unity
Feelings of forgiveness, tolerance, compassion

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A Morning Offering by John O’Donohue

(Photo: Fringed amaranth (Amaranthus fimbriatus). NPS/Brad Sutton)


I bless the night that nourished my heart
To set the ghosts of longing free
Into the flow and figure of dream
That went to harvest from the dark
Bread for the hunger no one sees.

All that is eternal in me
Welcome the wonder of this day,
The field of brightness it creates
Offering time for each thing
To arise and illuminate.

I place on the altar of dawn:
The quiet loyalty of breath,
The tent of thought where I shelter,
Wave of desire I am shore to
And all beauty drawn to the eye.

May my mind come alive today
To the invisible geography
That invites me to new frontiers,
To break the dead shell of yesterdays,
To risk being disturbed and changed.

May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.

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CHIRON and the HEALING JOURNEY

By Melanie Reinhart

This is the primary resource on Chiron in the astrology world recognized for its scholarship. I read it back in 2020—such a momentous year for so many things and to be reading a book on wounding and healing seems to have had its larger portents.

Let’s dive into Chiron—an actual object in the sky located between Saturn and Uranus, in what’s been termed the Kuiper Belt, and not discovered until 1977. Since that time, Chiron has been slowly nudging us consciously forward arriving with the emergence of depth psychology and coaxing us to begin working with wounding patterns and pain.  

Chiron’s myth helps us orient to the terrain. Chiron taking the form of half man, half horse was rejected by his mother as a monster. She abandoned him. This was Chiron’s first wound. Taken to Apollo, Chiron becomes a wise prophet, teacher, musician, and physician. Chiron’s association as the “wounded healer” happened later and there are several versions of the tale. One involves an afternoon when Hercules visited Pholus who opened a bottle of wine which caused a centaur stampede. In the mayhem, Chiron was accidentally injured by an arrow that Hercules released. It hits Chiron in leg in the animal part of the body signifying the vulnerability of the physical body. Although Chiron bears no responsibility for the injury, he suffers a wound that he cannot heal. And being a demigod, Chiron cannot die either—he suffers.  

Everyone has a personal Chiron in their birth chart. Wounding and healing are unique for everyone. Transits to Chiron can awaken us to initiate healing or reorient to the journey of awakening. These times can bring about a search for what is immortal in each of us. The footprints of the healing journey are found by examining the Chiron configuration (all the astrological factors connected to Chiron) in a chart. The author outlines the specifics for this technical process in Chapter 4. A deep dive into the astrology of Chiron’s placement, the aspects it forms, and transits of Chiron fill the bulk of this volume.

The final chapter of the book concerns a brief look at some of the archetypal Chiron themes that seem to be playing out in the collective. With Chiron being linked to Pluto (Lord of the Underworld), there are many dark recesses that could be explored here. The author highlights issues concerning the health industry, alternative medicine, belief in false prophets, racism, drug abuse, terrorism, and ecology (healing the earth). Those themes may also play out in individual horoscopes as indicated with biographies in this section.

This is a comprehensive book best explored by those with a good understanding of their own chart who want to explore the deeper meaning of wound and healing in their own lives.

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Ukraine Evacuations/Pets

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February 25, 2022 · 4:01 pm